Maybe the man you have just started dating, or your boyfriend, maybe even your husband has started becoming more and more distant in your relationship? Lets be honest…. this is not a good sign. You and I both know something needs to be done!
I have done a lot of research on what to do when he is distant, and what I uncovered came as quite a surprise.
Is the way popular media teaches us to handle our relationships, and our conflicts with men flawed? It could be highly possible that this is contributing to the problem.
In this article I discuss what I uncovered in my research into this matter. I also provide an alternative solution that you can try if he has become distant… hopefully you should see results in a matter of days.
What To Do When He Is Distant – Is The Conventional Advice Flawed?
Is that advice not the same advice you have been following all along? How do you know that this “conventional wisdom” when it comes to your relationship, is not actually contributing to your man becoming distant?
Whilst I agree that it takes two to cause a conflict, you also have to take responsibility for your own actions that may have contributed to the situation.
Certainly something to think about…
Anyway, first lets start by looking at what possibly could be causing your man to become distant, before we formulate a solution.
To be honest, what I uncovered in my research is both good and bad news when it comes to why he is distant.
The bad news is…. there could be any number of reasons or a combination thereof, as to exactly why he is being distant.
The good news is…. all of these reasons fall into 4 key “principles” when it comes to men and relationships.
If you understand these principles, you can pinpoint what is causing this behaviour. And once you have pinpointed this behaviour, you can remove his “mental road blocks”, and move the relationship forward.
Men’s Key Relationship Principles:
In the course of my research into what a women should do when a man becomes distant. I came across a revolutionary bestselling relationship author, that is causing quite a stir amongst experts in his field.
This is because his advice almost completely opposes what most other relationship authors teach. To throw salt in that wound, his advice seems to be very effective and hugely successful for women all over the world who are struggling with distant men.
I have written a detailed review of this authors book, and relationship blueprint here. Or you can visit his website and watch his video, by clicking the link below.
Anyway I have digressed….
What Is M.H.A.P?
What this author has come up with as the foundation of his advice, is something called the Masculine Hero Avatar Principle or M.H.A.P.
M.H.A.P details the four key principles that men need to see and more importantly feel in a relationship, in order for them to give their total love and devotion to a women.
Not feeling these principles, creates “mental road blocks” and causes the man to all of a sudden become distant. Sometimes even he cannot explain why he is either.
These principles are the creation of author T.W.Jackson who I introduced above. The best way you can learn these principles is by watching his free video explaining them. Link at the bottom.
In this article I can give you two of these principles.
- All men want to be loved for who they really are.
- Men only want to commit to a women that he feels will help him on his journey. He will become distant if he senses a women will weigh him down.
Why Is This Different To Conventional Wisdom?
Trying To Change Him:
If we are honest about it, in one way or another the advice always boils down to giving him an ultimatum to change his behaviour, and sort himself out.
If he doesn’t do that, we are taught to employ tactics that underneath it all are just manipulative.
So in essence we are trying to change him.
This in the end drives him further away, and makes women look pushy, manipulative and nagging. Who wants to be like that!
Often women are always looking for a “project” when it comes to a man. They like the idea of changing him, and saving him from himself so to speak.
Some men are weak and just roll over and accept it. When this happens the women often gets bored and moves on.
Those that are strong and resist the change, are the ones women stay attracted to. But we end up driving him away, by not letting him be himself. It changes us too, as we become somebody we are not, as we try to stop him being so distant.
Is he being distant because you are actually trying to change him into somebody he is not?
Are You Helping Him On His Journey?
All men consciously or subconsciously are on a journey of some sort in life.
The men women are most attracted to, have big goals in life, and are actively working towards achieving them.
Are you helping towards these goals?…. or are you hindering his progress?
If a man senses that a women will weigh him down, he will become distant or not commit to the relationship. A man wants to feel that the women he loves will help him on his journey.
T.W.Jackson has a great analogy of this. Think of all the comic book superheros like batman etc. They all work alone, and all struggle to hold down relationships.
These relationship struggles for one reason or another, always boil down to a conflict with the superheros purpose in life, and the support and protection of the women. They are incompatible even.
I know its a fictional and dramatized example, but it applies to all men just the same.
Now I know right now that you will be saying that women have goals and purpose to. You are 100% correct, and your man also need to be supportive of you and your purpose too, whatever that may be.
But could it be that the two of your goals are incompatible with each other? Are they taking each of you on a different direction in life?
If so maybe it is time for you to reevaluate your relationship. Maybe you two aren’t compatible for each other? It is hard I know, and despite this, the two of you love each other. But in the long run you may only just drift further apart.
If you are not supporting him in his purpose in life, and he feels weighed down in the relationship, this will cause him to become distant with you.
If you address these two principles, and apply the other two from the M.H.A.P model, you will uncover and the reasons behind why he is distant. You will also be able to flip the situation on its head, and obtain his total love and commitment to you.
Want To Stop Him From Being Distant Almost Instantly?
If you would like to learn about the M.H.A.P principles, and also have a blueprint that will also help you implement it. At the same time gain your mans total devotion and commitment to you and your relationship. I recommend that you have a look at T.W.Jackson’s Girl Gets Ring program.
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